Do we need to chase love?
Somedays back a very dear person said me, “ Don’t seek for love, Be the love. Try finding that love within you…how your heart, you yourself are capable of giving immense love to you is amazing.” And this is so true. Never did I realize that there exists a bond between me and myselves that is so pure and so deep.
It’s so strange, how it took me years to know and fall in love with myselves. To learn my priorities and embrace my flaws. To accept myselves the way I am and live my life on my terms and conditions.
Sometimes we disrespect ourselves wanting to be loved by people around us, and lower our self worth trying to live according to the ways they want to see us be. And we think that is being loved, liked and cared of. And in that race, we loose ourselves. We never try to understand what our inner voice wants, despite we are so immersed on the external stimulations trying to fit in. We become needy of love, love of people around us, surrounding us.
But sweetheart, You are enough.
We feel lonely and frustrated when we see couples affectioning each other, and create a vision that we are so incomplete. We seek for love at our low and lonely days, but when we are not being able to love ourselves how can we love the next person? This bond starts with expectations and needs. In seek of love, we suffocate ourselves and the next person and we don’t realize it at that point of time. Everything seems pretty according to us, when that person is there for us, but this won’t last longer. In the sake of love, we become dependent on someone for our emotions, and in no time, we loose a bond with ourselves and slowly with that person.
It feels bad to see people not loving their own company. We never know how life is going to be and who are gonna be with us. We are one unique individual sent to earth for a purpose, of living our own life. We are never taught to love and value ourselves. We are never taught about the strength that our inner voice carries. Never said that we can be our biggest cheerleader instead of being criticizer of self.
During my journey of self love, and knowing myselves more, my sister who has been an amazing life coach was my biggest motivation. She said, we can fall in love with ourselves taking small risks every day that would create a chain with our selves, and write every emotions you feel. She suggested me to note down the external things that’s absorbing me, and in what ways it has been haunting my days. It helped me a lot. Infact it was my first initiative on wisely knowing myselves.
Dear hearts,
The right tribe will come to you in your right time, and you will realize why all the previous connections didn’t work. But before this, to manifest your right tribe, you should be in your best state, ready to live life, embrace challenges, enjoy every day. Make small promises to yourselves and forgive your mistakes. You are not guilty for anyone’s emotions.
It’s so much fun to spend a day with yourself, have a self pampering day, take yourselves on a beautiful lunch date, play your favorite music, gift a self made greeting for yourselves, treat yourselves your favorite chocolate on your small achievements, watch your favorite movie, scrub your body with a self made coffee scrub, wear a dress you have been wanting to wear since days, click selfies (it’s okay selfies are weird😋) and write a thankyou letter to yourselves after all.
When the right time comes, we don’t need to chase love, we will manifest love, that’s right for us. Till then let’s live our life, enjoy our own company and find our best self, because we are our own best friend. Our best secret keeper and our own challenger.
P.S. I fall more for myselves when I have faith to go through my challenges and I do some small initiatives to make myselves a bit better than I was yesterday. I fall in love with my own flaws, my scars and my stretch marks, because they are a part of me and will be with me, forever. I need to treasure them. I fall in love with myselves every time, I believe in the universe that everything happens for a reason and I surrender my emotions. Infact I fall for me when I forgive myselves .💚
I am still in the process of loving myselves and to be able to give love to those who love me wisely and precisely, selflessly! And this is what matters, you being you❤️
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Prasuma☘️
